Attraction

     Attraction is something that is different for everyone. For lack of a better saying, one man’s trash is another man’s treasure. One person could be considered perfectly attractive in every way to someone, while another wouldn’t even take a second glance. For most people, physical beauty is very important in a short term partner, mostly because it has to be. Before you get to know someone emotionally, there has to be something else there to attract you to them. At the risk of sounding arrogant, I do not believe that I am someone who takes physical attractiveness very seriously. I have noticed through my past relationships that propinquity and reciprocity seem to be a great factor in who I have relationships with. Of course I can appreciate an attractive person, but rarely does that draw me to them. I should mention, however, just in case my boyfriend is reading over my shoulder, that I was lucky enough to find someone close to me who is extremely physically attractive!

     For a long term relationship, I do not think that physical attractiveness is really enough. There needs to be shared or similar values and goals, as well as an understanding and healthy compromise where your goals and values do not perfectly match.

     The following video is a humorous take on female attractiveness. It describes the stereotypical female ideal for physical attractiveness. I hope the coarse language isn't too much, I thought it was too funny to pass up having on my blog. Enjoy!